The effects of social media can be positive and negative. We use social media to connect, reconnect, motivate, inform or find humor and all can be considered positives. As an Instagram and Facebook addict, I’ve noticed the shift in their relevance. I remember when I used to get excited about receiving a friend request or reconnecting with my elementary school besties. Now my pages are saturated with tutorials on “How to be a Bad B!t$h” or individuals holding money stacks (when I know they don’t even have a job). The falsified lifestyles and distorted body images portrayed are deemed perfection, or in absence of better words, “hashtag WINNING”.
We look at Instagram profiles with 500k followers and photos with 6,000 likes and associate them with having acceptance, beauty, success, and overall perfection. We read the validating comments from followers and desire that recognition also so we alter our lives to attain it. But if all we aim for are responses from followers, are those comments really making us richer, more beautiful, or just “Instagram famous”.
How can you be sure that the way you are portraying a fallacious lifestyle to get “likes and comments” isn’t also being done by the person you are imitating.. Better yet, if social media never existed, do you think you would still be comparing yourself to strangers, wanting their lifestyle, physique, or relationship status so you can keep tally marks on a piece of paper for validation? Would the lives of strangers still seem so great to be imitated or worth your time?
If you want to be “pretty”, look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are pretty and believe it. If you want to be richer, evaluate your current occupation. Is your job working for you, are you able to advance? Do you need to look for another occupation or go into business for yourself? What are YOUR options to boost YOUR income?
If you want to lose weight, have you set a healthy weight-loss goal for your body type? Have you tried eating healthier or created a workout plan? If you are searching for your soul mate and keep attracting polar opposites with different morals and values, do you need to evaluate the way you are presenting yourself? Females, are you posting images with your legs spread wide open in a bra and panties, but search for a significant other who will value your mind? Fellas, are you posting images advertising how much money you make and can spend without care, and wonder why gold diggers are all you seem to attract?
Society gives us many images of perfection, but they are not all consistent with you your morals and values. So ask yourself; what is perfection for you? Why is it so important? Are we changing who we are physically and mentally by choice or for validation? Why do we let our insecurities drive us to social media for a description of personal perfection? If you Google the definition of perfection, it is defined as “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.” Notice that perfection is not described by physical attributes. Perfection is also not described by social or economic status. Perfection is a state of mind.
So be free of distorted images. Be free of fabricated lifestyles. Be free of conceited mentalities. BE YOU! We have to STOP comparing ourselves to what others profess to have and we think we want. Our self-esteem takes a hit when we follow flawed models that were never the right fit. When we know who we are, know who we want to be, and commit to work towards that end, then we have perfection! No one can be a better Me than me and no one can be a better YOU than YOU!
We look at Instagram profiles with 500k followers and photos with 6,000 likes and associate them with having acceptance, beauty, success, and overall perfection. We read the validating comments from followers and desire that recognition also so we alter our lives to attain it. But if all we aim for are responses from followers, are those comments really making us richer, more beautiful, or just “Instagram famous”.
How can you be sure that the way you are portraying a fallacious lifestyle to get “likes and comments” isn’t also being done by the person you are imitating.. Better yet, if social media never existed, do you think you would still be comparing yourself to strangers, wanting their lifestyle, physique, or relationship status so you can keep tally marks on a piece of paper for validation? Would the lives of strangers still seem so great to be imitated or worth your time?
If you want to be “pretty”, look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are pretty and believe it. If you want to be richer, evaluate your current occupation. Is your job working for you, are you able to advance? Do you need to look for another occupation or go into business for yourself? What are YOUR options to boost YOUR income?
If you want to lose weight, have you set a healthy weight-loss goal for your body type? Have you tried eating healthier or created a workout plan? If you are searching for your soul mate and keep attracting polar opposites with different morals and values, do you need to evaluate the way you are presenting yourself? Females, are you posting images with your legs spread wide open in a bra and panties, but search for a significant other who will value your mind? Fellas, are you posting images advertising how much money you make and can spend without care, and wonder why gold diggers are all you seem to attract?
Society gives us many images of perfection, but they are not all consistent with you your morals and values. So ask yourself; what is perfection for you? Why is it so important? Are we changing who we are physically and mentally by choice or for validation? Why do we let our insecurities drive us to social media for a description of personal perfection? If you Google the definition of perfection, it is defined as “the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.” Notice that perfection is not described by physical attributes. Perfection is also not described by social or economic status. Perfection is a state of mind.
So be free of distorted images. Be free of fabricated lifestyles. Be free of conceited mentalities. BE YOU! We have to STOP comparing ourselves to what others profess to have and we think we want. Our self-esteem takes a hit when we follow flawed models that were never the right fit. When we know who we are, know who we want to be, and commit to work towards that end, then we have perfection! No one can be a better Me than me and no one can be a better YOU than YOU!
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